The Solo Struggle: Why Going It Alone Is Keeping You Stuck

Mar 243 min read

We live in a world that glorifies self-made success. The lone wolf entrepreneur. The bootstrapper who “figured it all out” on their own. The grind-until-you-make-it mentality.

And yet, year after year, so many people find themselves in the exact same place struggling to get ahead, battling the same financial frustrations, and wondering why nothing seems to change despite working harder than ever.

Here’s the truth: if you could do it alone, you would have done it already.

The Illusion of Independence

Somewhere along the way, many of us bought into the idea that asking for help is a sign of weakness. That real success means doing everything on your own. That wealth and financial freedom come from simply working harder.

But take a look at the wealthiest, most successful people in the world. Do they do it alone? No.

Every billionaire has mentors, advisors, and coaches who guide them.
Every thriving entrepreneur has a team that helps them build and scale.
Every financially successful person has learned from others who have already done it.

The self-made myth is just that a myth. No one gets to the top alone.

Why You’re Stuck in the Same Cycle

If you’ve been trying to build wealth, grow a business, or transform your mindset year after year with little progress, it’s time to ask yourself:

Am I relying too much on trial and error instead of learning from people who have already succeeded?
Am I avoiding investing in mentorship, coaching, or education because I think I “should” be able to figure it out on my own?
Am I surrounding myself with people who challenge and elevate me, or am I stuck in the same circles that reinforce my limitations?

If you’re stuck, it’s because you’re missing the right guidance, accountability, and strategy.

The Solution: Stop Trying to Do It Alone

It’s time to break the cycle and stop believing the lie that you have to struggle by yourself.

Here’s how you can start moving forward today:

1. Find a Mentor or Coach

Look for someone who has already achieved what you’re working toward. If they’ve built wealth, grown a successful business, or changed their financial reality, they can show you the blueprint.

Success leaves clues why spend years figuring it out when you can learn from someone who’s already been there?

2. Build a Network of Like-Minded People

Your environment matters. If the people around you don’t inspire or challenge you to grow, you need a new circle. Join mastermind groups, networking communities, or mentorship programs where people are moving in the direction you want to go.

3. Invest in Education

Whether it’s books, courses, or coaching, real financial and personal growth requires learning from others. Stop seeing it as an expense it's an investment in breaking free from the cycle of struggle.

4. Get Accountable

Most people don’t fail because they don’t know what to do they fail because no one is holding them accountable. Find someone who will push you, check in on your progress, and make sure you don’t slip back into old habits.

5. Change Your Mindset About Success

Success isn’t about proving how hard you can work alone. It’s about leveraging the right knowledge, the right people, and the right strategies to get where you want to be faster.

Final Thoughts: You Don’t Have to Stay Stuck

If you’re tired of spinning your wheels, it’s time to stop thinking you have to figure it all out by yourself. The biggest mistake struggling people make is believing that success comes from working harder alone when in reality, success comes from working smarter with the right people and knowledge.

So, the question is: Are you ready to do something different? Or will you keep repeating the same cycle, hoping for a breakthrough that will never come without the right help?